December 11, 2014
Samuel’s birth didn’t go to plan, I am so glad I had an independent midwife
I am so thankful to have had Kay as our midwife, especially as Samuel’s birth didn’t go quite as planned and after a long labour at home, he was eventually born by caesarean section. I healed quickly physically and had peace of mind and closure emotionally and mentally, knowing I could ask Kay questions as she had been present throughout the whole process.
This was my first pregnancy and as soon as I found out I was pregnant I knew I wanted a home birth. My pregnancy in general was fab and I was considered low risk. I declined the 12 weeks scan opting for one at 23 weeks, when a tiny cyst was detected on my left ovary. All my details were incorrectly entered into the computer because I had declined the 12 week scan, I was told that I probably had polycystic ovary syndrome, I’d now be considered high risk and that I should have a whole bunch of additional tests. I was advised to see an obstetrician and told a homebirth was unlikely to be an option. I came out of the hospital feeling angry, deflated and helpless. Five days later I saw another hospital midwife and an obstetrician who, once I’d explained the situation, was very apologetic and following another scan informed me that the ovarian cyst was so small there was no need to monitor during my pregnancy and said I’d be fine for a home birth and changed my notes back to low risk.
I should have felt really happy but instead I just felt that the whole experience had been unnecessary as well as increasing my anxiety levels. I decided that this was not for me and I started to research independent midwifery. After meeting with Kay I was delighted that she was able to be our midwife.
The rest of my pregnancy was fab, most probably because I felt a massive weight off my shoulders. As well as being very lovely, Kay is the midwife oracle with a wealth of wisdom and knowledge. I was given books and articles to read which helped me make informed choices. Kay always had time to answer any questions we had and I trusted and respected her opinions. She fully supported all the choices and decisions I made.
My son decided his birthday would be 18 days past his due date. I awoke at 5am on a Tuesday morning with mild contractions. By 10pm my contractions were stronger so I got into the birthing pool which gave a huge amount of relief and Kay arrived a few hours later. Labour continued into Wednesday and I had great support from my husband Mike and Kay. There were no unnecessary examinations, only checks of my son’s heart rate and my blood pressure, which was what I had wanted.
By late afternoon on Wednesday, I was showing signs that the baby would be coming soon. A couple of hours later however contractions were less regular and I was experiencing a pain in my left leg (that was on par with the contractions!) Kay suggested getting out of the birthing pool and moving around to encourage contractions to speed up again. I walked up and down the stairs and around the house, I held onto the banisters whilst squatting, I also drank fluids, took homeopathic remedies, tried to see if I could empty my bladder which in the end needed a quick catheter to empty, I tried nipple stimulation and I sat back to front on the toilet!….not all at the same time…..that would have been impressive!
After long discussions with Kay, it became clear that I needed some medical intervention in hospital. So in the early hours of Thursday morning with Mike driving, we transferred calmly to hospital.
I was able to discuss my options with Mike, Kay and the obstetrician and decided to try the hormone drip. Two hours later, we had exhausted all avenues of a natural birth and due to his head position, an assisted birth was not an option. My son was born by caesarean section at 6.04am on Thursday morning weighing 9Ib 10oz. He was a healthy, vibrant beautiful baby boy and Kay was there to ensure that Samuel was placed on my chest as soon as possible.
The overall experience is so important, having Kay was the best decision I made and utterly invaluable. I am able to look back at my pregnancy and birthing experience feeling positive, empowered and at peace.
Lisa and Mike
I am so thankful to have had Kay as our midwife, especially as Samuel’s birth didn’t go quite as planned and after a long labour at home, he was eventually born by caesarean section. I healed quickly physically and had peace of mind and closure emotionally and mentally, knowing I could ask Kay questions as […]